Mate

Year read: 2015
How strongly I recommend it: 9/10

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The authors break down the male psyche to show the limitations of how most males approach dating the opposite sex.
Dr. Miller provides wonderful insights into the psychology of women. He beautifully deconstructs how and why women tell stories and feel the need to share with us.

I read this book shortly after marrying the love of my life. The book was written for the single male; however, the ideas are easily applicable to men in relationships. I learned more about how my wife thinks and how to better communicate with her than I did in marriage counseling.

I highly recommend this book to men that are wanting to better under how women think to improve their dating as well as men looking to improve their marriage.

A huge takeaway from this book is the expiring of the “zero-sum” myth. The myth breaks down to win one party benefits the other loses. You should approach relationships (friendships included) as a “positive-sum” where both parties benefit.

Quotes:

  • “A growth mindset sparks love of learning and reliance in the face of obstacles that are essential for great accomplishment
    “Plug your gaps; don’t polish your medals.”
  • “…make decisions about what you believe based on the best scientific, empirical evidence you can find.”